I smiled, said ‘thank you’ and took my bill from the bartender. Again, nothing out of the ordinary.
But here’s where the—interesting—part of the conversation began.
The woman turned to me and said she wanted to get a tattoo, but he (her husband) won’t let her. Then, as I was processing what had just come out of her mouth, her husband replied in a clear attempt to make him seem like not as much of a jerk, “I didn’t say you couldn’t get a tattoo, if it’s as elegant as hers,” then nodded towards me.
As I sat there in a mixture of disbelief and rage, the woman next to me carried on (completely unfazed) about tats she’d like to get and where, while the man kept nodding with this fake smile on his face, merely humoring her.
I paid my bill and left, angry and disheartened.
And this, my friends, is why.
Not only was I frustrated by the fact that he decided whether she could get a tattoo and what it might be, she was laughing it off and somehow strangely accepting of his control over her.
Here's the thing, and this is important to everyone, male or female: no one controls your body but you. Period.
She wants a tattoo. That has nothing to do with him, and she shouldn’t have to ask for permission. No one should. It’s her body. She has every right to choose what tattoo to get and where, just as he has the right to do the same and probably would.
Will someone stop loving you because you get a tattoo? Or cut your hair? Or wear the clothes that reflect your personality? No.
And if the answer is yes, then they didn’t love YOU to begin with. They loved the fact that you conformed to their definition of what you should be.
Embrace yourself. Embrace who and what you truly are. Stand up for yourself. Stand up for what you believe, what you are, and what you want. Regardless of whether you’re male or female, never allow someone to control you. You don’t deserve it.
You deserve to be loved for you.
Embrace Your Crazy,